So, in no particular order, the following list contains 25 [out of the many] things I hope that she learns by her 25th birthday ♥️
1. I hope she learns what unconditional love is and what it looks like - that she knows love never needs to be earned. I hope she realizes just how unconditionally loved she is by those around her, as well as learn how to express and give back that same unconditional love to others.
2. I hope she learns the meaning of acceptance and knows that she is fully accepted by us, regardless of any future differences or disagreements. I hope that she learns to accept herself, as well as others.
3. I hope she learns that it is okay to make a mistake - that mistakes don't define who you are or what you are capable of. They are lessons (that sometimes she might have to relearn a few times, especially if she's anything like me!)
4. I hope she learns, on that same note, to not let failure get to her - that she would not only understand the value of mistakes, but also learn how to push through and pull herself back up again.
5. I hope she learns how crucial it is to discover who she is - that it is important to pursue her own individuality and never try to be the person she thinks others want her to be.
6. I hope she learns that it is okay to be different - to embrace everything unique and special about herself and never attempt to hide it.
7. I hope she learns to value relationships with the people - family or friends - who unconditionally love her and will have her back, no matter what.
8. I hope she learns to never stop learning. I hope that she develops a love for learning that expands beyond school walls and that she realizes the importance of continual growth and personal development.
9. I hope she learns to really enjoy life and fully embrace every moment she has. I never want her to get so caught up in goals, aspirations, and the future that she forgets about today and just living.
10. I hope she learns to take each stage of life at a time and enjoy it. I hope her childhood is full of imagination and innocence, her teen years full of fun and a growing sense of independence, and her college days full of discovering who she is and what she wants.
11. I hope she learns what it means to trust and how to balance the fine line between trusting others while also guarding herself from harmful individuals and situations.
12. I hope she learns how to develop and maintain that [vitally important] deep inner peace - that sense of contentment that comes from living authentically and being exactly who she is meant to be.
13. I hope she learns discernment - that she will have the ability to read between the lines and to see through fake people who will only attempt to use her.
14. I hope she learns to listen to her instinct and intuition - and that she will never let someone else's voice override what she truly and deeply feels is right.
15. I hope she learns what her passions are - those dreams and goals that drive her forward and burn a hole in her heart. I hope she learns to pursue them wholeheartedly and that she never gives up on what she really wants.
16. I hope she learns how to fight for others and what is right - that she stands up not only for herself, but for those around her and those that don't have a voice.
17. I hope she learns how to forgive and let go - and to learn that forgiveness never means forgetting, but just realizing life is too short and she is too big of a person to be held back by the past.
18. I hope she learns to enjoy working hard and to take pride in her work and accomplishments.
19. I hope she learns to respect others, while remembering to always respect and stand up for herself.
20. I hope she learns how to voice her opinions, feelings, and beliefs - and that she never hides anything out of fear from what others might say or think.
21. I hope she learns to have faith and that she makes it her own.
22. I hope she learns to love her body, to treat it well, and to know that her value is never determined by the shape of it or the number on the scale.
23. I hope she learns how to be a good friend - how to give of herself in relationships, how to listen, and how to offer support.
24. I hope she learns what to look for in a guy - what actions and characteristics decipher between a man worth her time and a man who is not.
25. Finally, out of all the above, one of the biggest things that I hope she learns is her own self-worth - that she is worthy of respect and every basic right endowed to human beings. I hope she learns to never allow people to treat her as less or, worse, accept any form of abuse - that instead, to know she deserves to always be treated with respect, love, and acceptance. I hope she learns that her self-worth is never based on anything she says or does...but merely on the fact that she breathes and exists.
(Reposted from www.elizabethannewiley.com)
This Sunday is Mother's Day. It's supposed to be all about "us" - our day to be thanked for the "love we've given, time we've devoted, and sacrifices we've made". We'll get cards, flowers, and maybe breakfast in bed or other thoughtful expressions of gratitude.
Jim asked me the other day what I wanted. Being 1 month and (almost) 3, the kids are obviously too little to do something on their own.
When he asked me, it really made me start thinking. I began picturing the times when they will make little cards and gifts on their own or maybe call me from their own home, way down the road, to thank me.
To be perfectly honest...the more I thought about it, the idea of "being thanked" feels REALLY strange. I appreciate it, just like every other mom out there. Don't get me wrong. I'll enjoy being treated to lunch on Sunday or whatever he comes up with ;)
The thing is though....it just feels like it should be ME thanking them. They, being my children, are the greatest gifts I could have received or will ever receive.
So, this Mother's Day, all I REALLY want is to tell my children from my heart of hearts, thank you:
Thank you for the day you announced your presence. I'll always remember the moment I saw those two lines. The sudden rush of emotions that swelled up in my heart, the instant love I had for you, and the bond that formed immediately. It was in that very moment I became a mother. Thank you to my two angels who left before I could meet them. I had instant love and dreams for you - the day I miscarried you was painful and something no mother forgets. You are and always will be precious to me.
Thank you for the day you were born. For those nine months of nausea, fatigue, and stretch marks. For the growing number on the scale and for clothes that stopped fitting. For the extra hormones, the hair loss, and the skin breakouts. Because it all led up to the opportunity and gift of bringing life into this world. Thank you for letting me feel you grow and move inside me. For showing me, in a physical aspect through labor, that the worst kind of pain can bring the greatest amount of joy. The day I looked into your eyes and heard you cry for the first time will always be counted as one of my best memories.
Thank you for being alive. For needing me, from the 2am newborn cries and the toddler tantrums to the future teenage trials. For the daily messes, dirty laundry, and sleepless nights. For the crumbs. For the smears on the window. For making the living room look like it needs vacuumed again, five minutes after I just did. Thank you for bringing me piles of books to read, even when I'm tired. Thank you for snuggling in my arms when you are sick. Thank you for each and every little sign that you exist.
Thank you for teaching me some of life's greatest lessons. For making me grow as a human. For showing me what it means to be selfless, to give of myself, and to really love. Thank you for making me a stronger person, while giving me a softer heart. For restoring my faith and helping me learn to look outside of myself for the answers.
Thank you for opening my eyes. Because of you, I get to see the world differently. Waking up on Christmas morning, watching snowflakes fall, or baking cookies...running through sprinklers, blowing bubbles, and watching fireworks light up the summer sky. Because of you, these simple moments are suddenly more precious and more beautiful than ever before.
Thank you for the chance to watch you grow, learn, and develop into the unique person you are and will become. For being able to be by your side during some of your biggest moments and watch you pursue your dreams. I hope that one day I will get to watch you walk down the aisle, graduate from college, or hold your own child in your arms. But even if I don't get to, thank you for giving me the chance to be the one who brought you into this world, so that you could experience all the gifts that life will bring your way. It's, quite simply, the greatest honor a person could ever have.
So, thank you.
Thank you for making me a better person.
Thank you for giving me a greater, bigger, and better purpose in life.
Thank you for making me a mother.
Reposted from www.elizabethannewiley.com