And I mean that for you and for the babies.
If you’re connected to me through Facebook and/or Instagram, you must have seen gazillions of cute photographs of my twins—smiling, laughing, staring at the camera, sleeping peacefully. But because you’re special, here’s a never-before-seen picture of our twins crying, posted for the viewing pleasure of ThisMommyLife readers. You’ve seen it here first. :P
Confession: Sometimes, I kinda like watching these babies cry. They’re soooo cute when they’re crying, I sometimes take a moment to watch them cry before I make a move to carry them or soothe them. Oy, if you’re a mother, I’m sure you’re guilty of that too!
So what do you think about crying babies?
I hear people label babies as “iyakin” like it’s a bad thing. Sometimes people would describe my babies as “iyakin” or “bugnutin” (word to the wise, don’t dare using those words to describe a baby, especially in front of their mother!), which of course makes me feel a little annoyed. There came a point when I blamed myself for not being able to train them to not cry too much.
The thing is, babies cry, that’s what they do. Maybe it becomes a totally different story when they’re toddlers, only then it becomes partly an issue of discipline. But for newborn babies, crying is a natural thing. Since they don’t know how to talk or how to express emotions just yet, crying is the only way they know to communicate, to tell us of a discomfort or a need.
Isn’t her first cry what we loooong to hear the moment a baby is born? A crying baby is a good sign. It’s the first indication that the baby can breathe and that she’s alive. It’s her way of telling the world that she has arrived.
When you look at crying that way—as their means to communicate—then you stop feeling bad about all the crying and start being more attentive to what they’re trying to communicate instead. In fact, when I started seeing crying as my babies’ way of telling me that they need something, I learned to appreciate that they’re being assertive about what they need.
Thus, rather than calling a baby “iyakin”, I’d say they’re being “assertive” instead. ;)
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